A few weeks ago, during
the Welcome Programme at Sciences Po, there was a day of rain. It was
remarkable to me because, having lived in Southern California for the
past 15 years, I haven't seen such a storm in quite a long time. On my
way to school that morning, I had stopped at Monoprix
and bought an umbrella for the first time in my life. For quite some
time, any rain in San Diego has become a cause for celebration so I
felt a bit of a thrill as I splashed through puddles on the sidewalk
and shook my umbrella out in the foyer of 13 rue de l'Université.
I went about my classes
for the day and then headed back to the Métro for the ride to my dry
apartment where I planned to make myself a dinner of salmon,
broccoli, and a demi-baguette with whatever wine happened to be the
cheapest at Carrefour. I was hungry, so the novelty of the rain was
waning and I was just thinking about getting home to my comfortable
life. As I approached the entrance to the Mabillon station, I
quickened my pace so that I could get out of the rain as quickly as
possible.
My head down, I moved my
foot towards the first step into the underground when suddenly my eye
was drawn to something in its periphery. I noticed a well-dressed
young man inside the Diesel clothing store looking out of the display
window, his brow furrowed. Following his gaze, I saw a man laying on
the ground underneath what little protection their canopy provided
from the rain. He was unkempt and dressed in raggedy layers, so I
inferred that he was laying on the ground in the rain because –
unlike me – he didn't have a studio apartment stocked with food,
dry clothes, and comfortable bedding.
I faltered for a fraction
of a second and, as I did so, another young man came out of the store
and timidly tried to shoo the man away from the window. In that
moment, I saw the homeless man's face and – though I couldn't hear
the words exchanged over the noise of the rain and the Métro – his
body language was clear: “What am I supposed to do?!” I had to
make a choice: would I stop, step back from the stairs, and try to
intervene on the man's behalf? Perhaps take him to get some food and
sit with him for an hour? Offer to buy him an expensive rain jacket
from Diesel à la Pretty Woman? (“Big mistake. Big. Huge.”) Or
would I continue on my way home, turn on a podcast and watch a movie
on Netflix while I waited for my dinner to be ready?
As with all decisions,
this was to be a transaction. If I intervened, I would feel better
about myself. My smug White liberal male elitism would be indulged.
I might also have the opportunity to practice my French with a
captive audience if I took him to eat. I would have a story to tell
my friends to show how much of a nice guy I am. If I didn't
intervene, I could go home and continue with the rest of my day as I
had planned it. I wouldn't have to tell anyone about it. Or perhaps
weeks later I could tell my philosophy class about how much of a
gut-wrenching decision it was and how I wrestled with the choice so
that they would see how thoughtful I am and pat me on the back.
In the end, my timidity
and my seemingly urgent need for protein and carbohydrates won out.
I justified the decision to myself by saying that I would have been
limited by my poor French speaking skills and that intervening would
have infantilized the man lying on the street. And that it was cold
out. And that maybe I just didn't want to bother. I slept well that
night, my belly full and my blankets warm. The young men working at
Diesel probably did as well. I doubt that the man huddling in front
of the display window had a similar experience.
This is a very long
preface to a lesson that I took from an article by Saul Frampton,
published in The Guardian on 22 January 2011, and based on a parable
from de Montaigne's Essais.
Mr. Frampton recounts a story – which I couldn't find in de
Montaigne's writings to properly cite – of a neighbor who arrived
at de Montaigne's home breathless and allegedly pursued by soldiers
from a warring faction. Naturally, he is granted entry and comfort.
Soon after, several of the neighbor's men arrive along with their
battle arms, also claiming to be pursued by what must have been quite
a substantial force. Being an unquestioningly giving person, de
Montaigne invites everyone into his castle. With a metaphorical
Trojan horse in his home, de Montaigne looks his neighbor in the eye
and resigns himself and his very desirable castle to the impending
treachery. The neighbor then unexpectedly turns and leaves along
with his confused men.
It
is a tried and true aphorism that nice guys finish last, so why did
this snake in the grass neighbor sacrifice what would have been an
uncomplicated annexation of a handsome piece of property? Being a
philosopher, de Montaigne wondered the same thing and so he did what
philosophers do: he asked his neighbor. The man told him that, after
looking the generous de Montaigne in the eye, he found himself unable
to follow through on his plan. That proximity caused him to lose the
will to take the property or life of his neighbor.
Conventionally,
we seem to think of empathy as a force for good that is the exclusive
domain of altruists: Mother Teresa; Lyndon Baines Johnson as he
pushed the Civil Rights Act and the Voting Rights Act through
Congress; the volunteers and staff of Medicins sans Frontières;
Saint Dan and his overwhelming-yet-unacted-upon concern for the
closest homeless guy. What we don't seem to expect – and here I'm
finally getting to the second half of the title – is that empathy
can be more than the spoils of a decision in the form of the warm
fuzzy feeling that one gets from doing the right thing. It can cause
a dramatic cost for the defending party if one's empathy is exploited
by a person with fewer scruples than de Montaigne's neighbor and,
conversely, it can lead to a cost for the escalating party if they
suddenly find previously-unknown feelings that prevent them from
snatching the spoils that are well within their grasp.
There
are other combinations of conditions in this hypothetical game that
haven't yet been covered in this blog. Here's one:
I
won't pretend that boxing and philosophy are more similar than they
are here: I'll leave that for the romantics. What we do see here,
though, is the interplay between empathy and imperfect information.
In Game Theory, an actor has imperfect information if they do not
fully understand all of the choices and information known to all
other actors. In this case, the aggressor has imperfect information
because he doesn't know that the young man he is attempting to rob
could almost certainly beat the snot out of him. The odds of a net
gain for the bully are, unbeknownst to him, quite low. The boxer and
the little boy with him have more information than the bully, but
still incomplete information: does he have a knife? Does he have
allies hiding in the shadows?
The
young boxing champ analyzes the information available to him: the
cost of capitulation will be at least the money that he has in his
pocket. The cost of escalation seems likely to be less for him, but
there's a complication: the boxer's sense of empathy drives him to
analyze the underlying factors that have brought the boy to this
empty lot looking for an easy target. He infers more complete
information and decides that capitulation is the better option. In
doing so, the boxer shows us that this is not a zero-sum game. By
submitting to this boy's aggression, he teaches the young boy standing behind him –
who idolizes the boxer – that sometimes it's appropriate to turn
the other cheek. The hungry bully gets to buy some food for him and
his family and he doesn't get his ribs broken. The boxer feels good
about the resolution and hopefully sees the money as well-spent. And
we all get to hear the beautiful Xhosa language.
I'll
close with one final wallop right to the feels. Here's another story
of a good person turning the other cheek in a way that reduced the
costs to him and may have increased the spoils for his would-be
robber: get yourself a box of tissues before clicking here.
I really like how you tied together Montaigne, Game Theory, Empathy, and Boxing -- well done. Reading your post brought to the front of my mind an old question in Philosophy, "Does true altruism really exist?" After reading your post I would guess that your answer to this question would be "no, it doesn't".
ReplyDeleteWhen you were placed in your first Game Theory scenario, whether or not to help the homeless man on the street, you weighed the pros and the cons. Now, one might initially think the pros to helping the homeless man are, you'd nourish him, you'd save him from the rain, you'd restore his faith in humanity, etc. but your rationales for helping him had nothing to do with the homeless man himself; rather, they were all centered on yourself.
"If I intervened, I would feel better about myself. My smug White liberal male elitism would be indulged. I might also have the opportunity to practice my French with a captive audience if I took him to eat. I would have a story to tell my friends to show how much of a nice guy I am."
This is in no way to say you aren't a nice or good person; rather, it is to say you are an honest one. Many philosophers, along with myself and apparently you, believe that nothing is truly done selflessly, every action can be boiled down to having a selfish motivator. Whether it is to appear nice in the eyes of others, get a warm fuzzy feeling your stomach, or something more concrete, altruistic actions always can be linked to selfish motivations.
In his work The Dawn, Friedrich Nietzsche seems to take a similar opinion when talking about pity. Nietzsche contends that pity does not actually exist in it's conventional form. Acting on "pity" is not selfless but rather self-motivated, it is done simply to alleviate the feeling of pity and better the situation of the one suffering from pity, not to better the situation of the one suffering from whatever it may be.
I'll wrap up this comment with a relevant scene from Friends and the restatement of the question. Does true altruism exist, or is apparent selflessness always tide to selfishness? Hopefully others will chime in.
Joey seems to think the latter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ahDxg3hc5pM
I spent three years at a Catholic high school back in the states where we were required to take a theology course each year. Unfortunately this was not a Jesuit school, so questioning the class material was quite a serious faux-pas. I think I got a C in my junior year class because I refused to give the "correct" answers on quizzes and exams.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, your comment reminded me of the thing (yes, singular) that I got out of that class. During a unit on papal encyclicals, we were taught that there is no such thing as true altruism. At first I wrote down what the instructor said and blew it off. This was an instructor who had recently taught us that objective morality could only be defined by biblical rules, so the source of the assertion was suspect in my mind. For some reason, though, the idea stuck in my mind because of the example that the instructor had used. She said that Mother Theresa wasn't altruistic because, through charity, she gains a sense of self-satisfaction for having done what she understands to be good. It was the only thing that I had heard out of this instructor that had made any sense all year.
That lesson has affected how I've lived my life since then. I now view religious parables strictly as a tool with which to manipulate human behaviour and I appreciate them as such. My belief that true altruism doesn't exist, which you correctly estimated, has freed me from my own neuroses. I'm now able to examine a situation almost etically before choosing a course of action. In the case of the homeless man I mentioned above: if I believed in absolute altruism, I would have felt obligated not just to help him immediately but also to connect him with long-term supportive services and follow up regularly with him. My internal dialogue, which I externalized in this post, is always nagging me and sometimes all I can do to remain sane is to embrace the idea that there is never a truly altruistic action to take.
Sorry I didn't see your comment sooner. I deleted my Google Plus account and apparently that affected this site, so I didn't get a notification of it.